Tuesday, January 26, 2016

How to Plan a Budget Filipino Wedding 101

So we decided on a PhP 250,000.00 (approximately $5,200.00) for our wedding.

For non-married, non-engaged people, let me clarify this to you: that amount is NOWHERE NEAR the usual expense to get married in Metro Manila. The wedding industry silently brainwashed Filipinos to want a big wedding. Vanity played a big role, I suppose. Since the advent of SDE's (Same-Day Edited Video) as a norm in every weddings, people seemed to want to see their faces digitally immortalized in a glammed-up fashion in one of the best days of their lives. Nothing wrong with wanting that. I think its the PRESSURE to conform to the "norm" is what's wrong with that even-- especially if you can't afford it. Even just marginally wrong. :) Cliche is true: "It's about the MARRIAGE, not the WEDDING".

Anyhow, to detail it further, let me breakdown the usual suspects:
1. Reception:

  • This comprises approximately 50% of the total Wedding Expenses. 
  • Since weddings are actually celebrations, believe it or not, you actually have to feed them. Hahaha. It's probably the most expensive party you have to throw, in like, ever! The cost of food is usually Php 700-1000 per plate. So for 150 people, that's Php 105,000 to 150,000 already. Some venues have their own caterers and may or may not charge for the venue. Some caterers don't have own venues so you have to look for a separate venue who will charge you separately. Kaching.
  • There are alternatives, though (In another post. Don't want to flood you too much). And you can scout for reception packages with loads of freebies (like we did). 

2. Church:

  • It really makes me wonder why Churches charge so much for people to get married. Why not lower the cost down and prevent couples who can't afford the whole wedding shebang from living out of wedlock? Anyway. Pft.
  • Php 5,000 to Php 35,000. Depending on the church area, and the state of air-conditioning. Rule of thumb - the bigger and more beautiful the church, the more expensive.
  • Average rate: Php 15,0000 to 20,000.
  • Churches set the mood for the whole day. Say, you settle for a non-air-conditioned church - you'd have to factor that in when deciding the entourage and the couple's attire. A proper warning to your guest to bring their own fans, or if you're kind enough to provide your guests with fans will be appreciated.
  • The interiors of the church is also a factor to consider in the motif and over-all theme of your wedding. 
  • Image of San Agustin Church from New World Encyclopedia
  • For example: A Baroque church might suit a more formal wedding theme and motif for the entourage and reception.
  • The church and reception should be within each other's vicinity for everybody's convenience. 


3. Photography

  • For us, this one is up there in terms of budget priority. We are photography enthusiasts back in our college days, so seeing poorly lit and focused photos by "professionals" who charge Php 20,000 to 40,000 just makes us so sad  and pray to God it won't happen to us.
  • We originally decided to opt for another photographer (let's call them Studio B) who had a cheaper complete package who had acceptable pictures in their website. It suited our budget well, relieving us of pressure from payment schedules. HOWEVER, when I again reviewed and compared Studio B's to Studio A (my first love photographer)... and my boyfriend saw the pictures of a friend's wedding that were subpar from our expectations (take note: OUR, not theirs :)), we paid Studio A's downpayment within the same day. The point is: we did not want to regret the choice of our photographer after the wedding when we can't do anything. Photography, for us, is worth spending on.
  • A good photographer can make your church look good. A bad photographer can make your Php100,000 wedding dress look like trash. A good photographer can make your squad look good even using the street as background. A bad photographer can ignore the hotel details you nitpickingly chose for to be your preps venue. 


4. Video coverage

  • I'm not totally decided on this. However, if someone voluntereed to pay for this I'd take it -- for completion purposes. In all honesty, I've been in weddings where the guests felt so distant to the couple because the videocameras isolated them from us. I shudder at the idea of that. So in the event that we get a videographer, we will have a long conversation with them regarding that.
  • Also, I'm not very comfortable with the idea that they upload their SDE's on their websites and Youtube for promotion.


5. Wedding Dress

  • From Divisoria to International sources, there are a wide variety of wedding gowns and prices.
  • To as low as Kitchie Nadal's Php 799 white dress to Divisoria gowns (Php 5,000 to 10,000) to mid range designers (Php 20-80,000) to high end designers (Php 80,000 to infinity)
  • Plus shoes plus lingerie plus accessories.

6. Entourage Dress

  • Again this varies greatly.
  • Some brides ask their entourage to supply their own dresses. Some gives them the fabric for uniformity. Some opt for ready to wear gowns. Some pay for everything.

7. Groom's Suit/Barong

  • Php 5,000 to 20,000. No effin' idea about this. Haha.


8. Prep's Venue

  • Hotels around the city costs Php 3,000 to 15,000. Its important because the photography and video coverage starts here. The preps venue of the groom and bride should be near each other. Home is another option.

9. Wedding Coordinator

  • On-the-day Coodinator is the current trend now. Costing Php 15,000 to 25,000. This may be a small price to pay for a stress-free wedding. Other coordinators also offer freebies to their advantages. Reading reviews and forums on these will help you decide and overlook nightmare coordinators.

10. Hair and Make-up

  • A great option is to have yourself or a friend who know your face well do your make-up. This is a scary concept for me because I have borderline hooded eyes, fair skin, with blue undertones. I have full thick lips which means light and striking lipstick will quickly pull focus to my lips. I have chubby cheeks so I need good contouring.
  • When my sister got married, she did her own make-up because she is AMAZING. She did her make-up quite wonderfully. Lots of complement. She also tried to do her maid-of-honor's make-up, but she failed miserably! Even her other friends who did their make-up's just cannot fix my face. :) I went to trial make-up's in several bridal fairs, even trying high-end make-up artists and I did not like my face after the "transformation".
  • My tip is to decide on how you want to look as a bride be searching for bridal pegs in Pinterest.

11. Music

  • A string quartet can easily be overlooked by your guests. Especially if you'll do all your traditions during the reception and overwhelm their attention with your jam-packed programme. 
  • However, if music really matters to you, String Quartets can coast up to Php 50,000.


12. Stationary

  • Php 30-70 pesos per invite. Did not really research on this because we plan to make our own. Its our vice in college up until my Internal Medicine Residency. There was no question we'd do our invitations on our own. I'd keep you posted how much we spend on them.

13. Wedding Favors

  • Php 30-infinity. Depends on how you love your guests. But surprise! It's really optional. They won't even look for it.


14. Flowers

  • Php 5,000 to up to 20,000 depending on the extend of fauna you want.

15. Events Styling

  • I did not even research on this because I did not plan on spending on the extra spruce of the wedding venue. Plus, I'm such a DIY girl, I'd be stealing my own fun if I hire a styler.

This is an interesting read from Huffington Post:


We re-computed our budget and have an extra Php 15,000.00 to spare. Although, we will still probably use the money for other matters the dark side still clouds from our vision /starwars.

That's it for now. More posts coming from the Budget Bride. :)

Hi!


I wandered back into the blogging world because like Sherlock, I needed a distraction. So, Hello, Blogging Community! How have you been? Me, I've been rusty. My only concern for what, about 5 years now, were precise, non-illustrious, jargon-ridden, writting for residency.


So, we post a review. I'm at home most of the time, hence the shortage for topics. But here's a product I really, really enjoy.


A short history: My parents switched to an organic-only please lifestyle about 20 years ago. So by definition, we can eat meat, eggs, etc, given that it is organic. However, my lifestyle, being away from home, having to live near the hospital for a long time, having nothing to eat but delivered food from fastfood chains during our duty days, I have not adhered to the diet.


Nonetheless, I'd choose organic over non-organic anytime. Including bath and beauty products. It's hard, though, because most organic products are VERY expensive, not fit for a student's budget. So what I do is that if I have to buy the product with my own money, I'd do TONS of research prior to buying it. This saves me from regret later on. However, most Lush Reviews are done by Caucasians so some aren't applicable to us, Asians (such as shampoo with purple undertones that complements perfectly the yellows of blonde hair. Hehe)


This review is me helping anyone out there who'd want to adapt the no-chemical lifestyle.


A staple in the organic biz in the Philippines is LUSH. I'm really not familiar with the company's history, or anything, but I think its been present in malls since I was a kid. But its quite expensive compared to non-organic formulas, which was the deterent for me. My mother introduced me to Human heart Nature shampoo and I used to love it until they sort of changed the formula and left my hair feeling wire-y after. Even after using their conditioner.


Anyhoo, flash forward to Medical Residency, about a year ago, I asked some shampoo from a friend at our locker room and she handed me a Lush shampoo (forgot the exact name, I will find out in a bit) and my hair quite liked it. Its scent is very different from what you'd sniff from the bottle and what your hair would smell like later. The formula is quite think and I only used little product for my thick and long hair. That started my fascination with Lush's shampoos.


The first one I bought was REHAB. Which the recommendation of the store attendant upon seeing how thick my hair was. So I bought it and I did not like it that much. Review coming up later. But it felt like I had it forever! The whole bottle (Price: Php 1200?) lasted for 7 months!



7 months! Everyday use for my Hair length! I was quite impressed. That was PhP 171.00 per month. If you think about it, the price is quite comparable to what you might spend on local products. My hair is really, really thick.


So I decided to buy another from Lush. Initially I wanted to buy a small one, because of my take on Rehab, but my boyfriend convinced me its more cost effective to buy the bigger one.



Php 1295.00 for the 500g bottle and I can say its worth every penny. I love its smell, fruity, as said in the ingredients. What Juicy Fruit might smell like if they manufactured a fragrance.

The thing about my hair is, it's quite thick. the individual strand of my hair is thicker than the average (or so says my friends). This may be confused (but judgy people who's idea of beautiful hair is the rebonded one) to being dry and unmanagable. I think my hair is quite manageble in ideal scenarios, i.e non-humid weather.

So this formula leaves my hair soft even without condioner. Again, the formula is thick so you need not use too many to cover your hair. But I keep using more because I just love the smell so much!

Second thing about my hair is that it has a natural reddish tint when hit by sunlight. Like a highlight color. But my hair can appear really, really black.


The I Love Juicy, according to my boyfriend, makes the reddish tint more vibrant, again, according to him.


Third thing, my hair is a virgin. No rebond, no coloring. So I can't say much about its effects to treated hair.


I highly recommend it especially for those who want to try organic products. I highly advise you to buy the smaller bottle, I think they cost Php 700-800. It will last you long if you have thin hair. Also, if you notice from the smaller picture, the "Best Before" date is just a year or so after purchase of the product. Again, a con of buying organic. Lesser preservatives, means shorter shelf life. So if your have thin, short hair, you might not be able to consume the biggest bottle within the time period, as I have. Another reason for buying the smaller bottle is that you can try the shampoo and know its effect on your hair under different kinds of weather. The Rehab worked well for me during the cold months. :)


So there. My first product review, ever. I'm hoping to review more organic beauty faves here on my blog for your consumption soon. :)






Countdown to my BIRTHDAY!

So what's so special?

Except for the fact that I would be 29 next year, WE have decided to get married on that date.

Where's the ring, you say?

Well, we've been together for 8 years and we are on the stage of not needing formalities for anything. But we might get one sometime near the wedding for reasons that I am kind of an "anti-wedding" bride-- reasons for which will be explained in another blog post. :)

So i have been scouring the internet for ideas for the planning of our wedding and from what I've gathered so far, here are our ideas:

  1. We want the wedding to be simple and intimate.
  2. We don't want to follow current wedding standards.
  3. We don't want to lose a head and a limb in wedding expenses.
  4. We want the wedding to be eco-friendly.
  5. We want to prioritize photography in the budget.
  6. I will wear flats. (HAHAHA)
  7. We, I mean, I want to do so many DIY's.
  8. We want to serve Cuisiner's roast beef.
  9. I want to do my own make-up.
  10. We will do the planning with all love and no stress.
So, during my Internal Medicine Board Review, we begin our journey to the mark of our new journey til death do us part. :)